Top Five steps to a successful relationship
Okay so relationships can either be good or bad, but never great. I mean how often do you hear people say they have a great relationship? Truth be told, great relationships are rare and pretty much non-existent. Most relationships are not even good or bad, they are somewhere in the middle. The average person whether male or female will tell you that their relationship status with their partner is relatively normal. It’s not the best, but it’s not the worst. Take a moment to analyze your relationship, do you feel your relationship is good, bad, or somewhere in the middle? Well if you picked either of these then there is hope for you. I’ve constructed five steps below that will help you achieve greatness and success in your relationship. So read them, apply them, and be changed.
STEP 1- Self-Happiness
It’s so important to be happy and to learn how to sustain it for long periods of times in a relationship. Often time’s relationships are difficult because one person is insecure or depressed causing a negative chain reaction. When two people are happy in a relationship then having fun and doing things together comes easily. You should not always rely on your significant other to bring you happiness because they will fail you often; their presence should be a bonus to your happiness not a main source. Your happiness must come from the inside first. When you feel unhappy or depress, all you are really doing is letting outside circumstances get on the inside of your heart causing you to worry. I believe self-happiness is the main key to a happy relationship because, let’s face it, when your happy it’s easy to forgive and forget. In a relationship you will always have to forgive and forget, but it makes it harder when you are already unhappy or depress. Every person brings his or her own emotional baggage to a relationship, and usually their significant other will inherit their emotional problems, rather they like it or not. So that’s why it’s so important to rule over your emotions, and stay happy because your significant other has their own problems and you adding in yours makes it that much worse. I’m not saying don’t communicate your feelings with your partner, that’s also important, but what I’m saying is to learn how to be a more happier person and to always look at the brighter side of things. I promise you that your relationship will be more exciting and painless if you learn how to create your own happiness.
Step 2 Awareness
You must always know the current status of your relationship. Believe it or not, most relationships die from lack of awareness. Many couples didn’t know that their significant other was unhappy until it was too late and the relationship was beyond repair. It’s very important to be aware of your relationship’s status, which means you have to ask probing questions and be proactive to solving issues. Ask your significant other to grade your performance once a month. If he/she grades you as good then ask your partner if there’s anything else in the relationship that you can improve on. If she grades you as bad then try to fix the issues that your partner has problems with. I’m not saying it will be easy, but it will definitely be worth it.
STEP 3 STAYING FRESH
Ever heard of the phrase “Too Much rotation makes the product’s value go down, well the same thing goes for a relationship. Too much of something is never good. Try to incorporate new adventures in your relationship. Go to places with your boyfriend or girlfriend that you have never been. Fight against boredom and routine because they are known as the silent killers in a relationship. I’ve seen more boring relationships that I care to see, and some couples wonder why their relationship is failing. Your relationship will put out based on what you put into it in most cases, so stay fresh and never let anything get too old.
STEP 4 TAKE RESPONSIBILITY
This is a very important key factor when it comes to having a successful relationship. Each person in a relationship should take proper responsibility of his/her actions. So if it’s your turn to do the dishes then roll up your sleeves and get to work. Just think if the world had more couples taking proper responsibilities then the divorce rates probably would not be so high. Couples nowadays argue and fight over a bunch of silly things that could be prevented if responsibility is taken. I’m sorry the traditional economy is over, welcome to the new world. A relationship should never be a one person do all. Both parties should help to keep the relationship going. Couple should separate roles accordingly and take responsibility to keep their side of the deal. For example, if it’s your month to pay the electricity, don’t go blow your money on a new sound system for your man cave and expect the lights to just stay on. Now do you understand where I’m coming from? This step should be the easiest, but some people make it so hard. Don’t put your relationship in jeopardy from not taking responsibility. Choose today to do your part to the best of your abilities.
STEP 5 YOUR BUSINESS
Ultimately, you have to treat your relationship or marriage like a business. Sometimes what you invest in does not give you profit right away, you have to keep working on it. Make sure you have a plan of action for the good and bad times. Also make sure you have a proper vision for your relationship. If your relationship is not moving forward and maturing, then it’s a dead relationship that’s lacks proper foresight. Most small businesses fail in the first five years because they lack vision. Stay engaged in committed in your relationship, and know that you’re in a long distance race not a sprint, so pace yourself and enjoy each other.
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